Planning your own death
Death continues to be a taboo subject in Singapore but one person has no problems talking about it and sharing her plans about her death.
Ageless Online has a chat with her:
Can you share when and what made you decide to pre-plan your death and why this is important to you?
I helped with the pre-planning for my in-laws in 2010 and I realised I should also do the same for myself as I wanted to be in control on how my final journey would be like. I have four daughters and three grandchildren and as the young these days may not have full understanding of traditional Chinese cultures and traditions, I have decided to do my own pre-planning. I spoke to a few friends of mine and realised a handful of them have already prepared their final resting place.
Can you share the details of your pre-planning?
I was not sure if I should tell my family members about my decision as death is a taboo subject. I visited a few columbariums on my own and finally when I had made my choice on one, I brought my family members down to take a look. I was surprised they were very open and supportive of my decision. More importantly, they were comfortable and I knew I made the right decision.
Can you share your family members’ feeling on this?
My family understands this is a journey that everyone has to go through. They are supportive of my choices and having their support is very important.
Yes, death is a very taboo subject. Not many would want to talk about it. However, this is a process we all have to go through. Instead of avoiding it, we should all be educated and approach it with an open mind.
Do you have any advice to other seniors to pre-plan?
This is your journey, nobody but yourself should decide how you want to leave, and one should leave with dignity and in peace.
(** PHOTO CREDITS: Aya Brackett, courtesy of SevenPonds.com, used with permission)